im thinking “if more guys were like you, id totally date them” means “if more guys had your personality, i’d totally date them, however… you’re too ugly for me…”
Yup. I’ve had that said to me before and tried something, and that is EXACTLY what it means. Which is sad because, while not a 10 by any long shot, I’ve had cute dates, a really cute gf, and a gf who was honestly far too hot for me. (Whom I fell in love with . . . miss her. ANYWAY.)
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The effective response (assuming she’s also subtly turned you down) is to subtly spill your drink on her, subtly stepping on her toe is the process of trying to subtly clean up the spill.
And to top it all, she was mad that I liked her and told me to eff of. Even though I was the only person she talked to about everything and she always wanted to be around me. It just goes to show that everyone is replaceable.
That hasn’t been my experience. I have had numerous women “friends” who would not actually date me who have said that exact thing to me. My response became “If they were like me, you wouldn’t date them either.”
Seriously, why are guys so slow on making moves? She’s probably dropping a hint. Not that there is anything wrong with a woman making the first move, it just gets tiring of doing it all the time after awhile.
Either that, or she’s just not attracted to him. In that case, she should let him know that their relationship is just a friendship rather than being vague (then again, I’ve told several boys that I was not interested in anything other than friendship only to have them ask me out and become disappointed and ANGRY when they were denied. Oy). Other than that, however, that’s not her fault. There’s nothing wrong with not being attracted to someone.
i agree with you except for the last part when you said “thats not her fault”. i’d say it is if she tells him all this stuff about how he is awesome, funny, etc. Then when he tries to ask her out she rejects him. im not saying all girls are like this but most are misleading, and thats what bothers the ever living poop out of me. and you’re right about there’s nothing wrong with not being attracted to someone, but there is something with wrong with a girl saying “i wish more guys could be like you” or “id date guys like you then they reject you. im speaking from personal experience of course
is it wrong for a girl to be in a relationship and still want to be friends with boys? if you don’t want a girl to tell you you’re awesome and hang out with you and be your friend unless she lets you f*** her, then you deserve to be tormented by the ‘friend zone’.
Only time the “friend zone” thing works amiciably is when said male is already in a relationship. Seriously, too many people are oblivious to obvious sexual tension and clearly you are one of those people… The insult is when you state that they deserve said frustration. Then you wonder why they get angry?
Your second option is the far more realistic one. And honestly, if you’re a woman and you’re not attracted to a guy, you need to accept if he doesn’t want to be friends with you. If you have the right to not want to be with him as a gf, he has every right to only want to be with you as a bf. It’s best to end the friendship on good terms; being friends with someone you are attracted to simply causes jealousy and MEGA frustration. Besides, if you really like a guy as a friend but are not attracted to him (and you’re single) you ARE being shallow–which, honestly, isn’t terrible–you’re human, after all–you just need to admit it. EVERYONE is shallow some times. As long as you recognize it, guys WILL be more respectful of you, even if he can’t be friends with you.
it pisses me off when boys refuse to be friends with me as soon as they find out i have a boyfriend. if they can like me and want to be friends with me before they meet him, why can’t they still like me after?
Because they are attracted to you. They won’t be your friend because it would be too difficult to spend time with you and then see you go off with someone else. You don’t get what you want and neither do they.
How is wanting to be friends with someone shallow? In fact, I’d call that the opposite of shallow. It’s perfectly normal for someone to want to be friends with a person without being attracted to them; heck, that’s the basis of all my friendships with women, let alone men. If you think that all women should either be dating you or not interacting with you at all, I think that you would be rather lonely.
I think he’s saying that if you like the person as a friend, then the only reason you wouldn’t want to date them are shallow reasons. I don’t agree though. At least, it’s not the case for me. Just because I enjoy a guy’s company doesn’t mean I want to be romantically involved with him.
You know that this IS in fact the hardest punch in the face you can give somebody?
For example, your pursue something more then friendship over time.
He/She tells you “omg.. if there were so kind and bla bla bla like you” then tells to you “omg! no! we are friends!”. How do you feel?
I could kill the person (in my case girl) in front of me.
People will never learn it . And they say, women are smarter and stuff…
My permanent response to that statement, especially from a woman who has already decided not to date me: “If they were more like me, then you wouldn’t date them either. Now, don’t let the door knob ream you in the ass on your way out.”
How many times have I heard this?
Oh, the latest thing with me is “I’d date you if I was single”
What’s that supposed to mean? Am I just better than anyone’s boyfriend or was I just too late? D:
She may also come on to you whilst drunk or something, and then when you form an emotional bond–BAM! She’s sticking with her bf. You were just the drunken cheating.
le friend zone: This is why Ron from Harry Potter is awesome, he escapes this hellish nightmare to hook up with Hermione.
escaping friend zone > destroying you know who
Sad but true. So sad but true. If they just would say loud n clear “your charakter is nice, but your not my type” then everything would be fine. No, they do this stupid “hide n seek” game instead of telling the truth. So stupid.
@miss riddle – meh u rong bih taim dear , exactlyy that response with the addition of “I iz not attracted and then seing said woman with a quite remarkable copy of you is kinda ………….
And that’s teh time i discovered red light districts and their use , ever since i hadn’t drowned sorrow in alc-ol or raged at random people cos some ***** acted like a ***** towards me .
She wouldn’t have gone home alive if that was me.
http://i.imgur.com/AzRj5.png
Oh. Oh memebase.. The shame.
Or maybe she’s giving you a sign saying “Invite me on a day or do something, you dick?” Go all in instead of waiting for her to make the first move
date*! Epic fail
Yeah, that’s what I was thinking…poor guy seems a little slow.
im thinking “if more guys were like you, id totally date them” means “if more guys had your personality, i’d totally date them, however… you’re too ugly for me…”
Yup. I’ve had that said to me before and tried something, and that is EXACTLY what it means. Which is sad because, while not a 10 by any long shot, I’ve had cute dates, a really cute gf, and a gf who was honestly far too hot for me. (Whom I fell in love with . . . miss her. ANYWAY.)
See below comments for verification that I’m not the only one!
Catching the subtleties is the trick.
The effective response (assuming she’s also subtly turned you down) is to subtly spill your drink on her, subtly stepping on her toe is the process of trying to subtly clean up the spill.
Then, take the steak knife and subtly
that’s what I got out of it.
Succinct Summary of said Shallow.
Well, I was in a similar situation. And I made the move. Turned out she wanted somebody like me, but NOT me. I will never understand women
^ This. All the time.
And to top it all, she was mad that I liked her and told me to eff of. Even though I was the only person she talked to about everything and she always wanted to be around me. It just goes to show that everyone is replaceable.
*off
Without the asking her and getting rejected, I’m (was, more like…) in exactly the same situation now…
Yup! Friend zone = pure evil. And everyone wonders why I’m so cynical about women.
That hasn’t been my experience. I have had numerous women “friends” who would not actually date me who have said that exact thing to me. My response became “If they were like me, you wouldn’t date them either.”
Seriously, why are guys so slow on making moves? She’s probably dropping a hint. Not that there is anything wrong with a woman making the first move, it just gets tiring of doing it all the time after awhile.
Either that, or she’s just not attracted to him. In that case, she should let him know that their relationship is just a friendship rather than being vague (then again, I’ve told several boys that I was not interested in anything other than friendship only to have them ask me out and become disappointed and ANGRY when they were denied. Oy). Other than that, however, that’s not her fault. There’s nothing wrong with not being attracted to someone.
i agree with you except for the last part when you said “thats not her fault”. i’d say it is if she tells him all this stuff about how he is awesome, funny, etc. Then when he tries to ask her out she rejects him. im not saying all girls are like this but most are misleading, and thats what bothers the ever living poop out of me. and you’re right about there’s nothing wrong with not being attracted to someone, but there is something with wrong with a girl saying “i wish more guys could be like you” or “id date guys like you then they reject you. im speaking from personal experience of course
is it wrong for a girl to be in a relationship and still want to be friends with boys? if you don’t want a girl to tell you you’re awesome and hang out with you and be your friend unless she lets you f*** her, then you deserve to be tormented by the ‘friend zone’.
Only time the “friend zone” thing works amiciably is when said male is already in a relationship. Seriously, too many people are oblivious to obvious sexual tension and clearly you are one of those people… The insult is when you state that they deserve said frustration. Then you wonder why they get angry?
Your second option is the far more realistic one. And honestly, if you’re a woman and you’re not attracted to a guy, you need to accept if he doesn’t want to be friends with you. If you have the right to not want to be with him as a gf, he has every right to only want to be with you as a bf. It’s best to end the friendship on good terms; being friends with someone you are attracted to simply causes jealousy and MEGA frustration. Besides, if you really like a guy as a friend but are not attracted to him (and you’re single) you ARE being shallow–which, honestly, isn’t terrible–you’re human, after all–you just need to admit it. EVERYONE is shallow some times. As long as you recognize it, guys WILL be more respectful of you, even if he can’t be friends with you.
/end old (28-yr-old) person rant
it pisses me off when boys refuse to be friends with me as soon as they find out i have a boyfriend. if they can like me and want to be friends with me before they meet him, why can’t they still like me after?
Except they waned to put their efforts in a deeper relationship. Some of us want to start a family, you know.
So what? Not all friends become romantically involved. I think you’ve been watching way too much TV if you think otherwise.
Because they are attracted to you. They won’t be your friend because it would be too difficult to spend time with you and then see you go off with someone else. You don’t get what you want and neither do they.
How is wanting to be friends with someone shallow? In fact, I’d call that the opposite of shallow. It’s perfectly normal for someone to want to be friends with a person without being attracted to them; heck, that’s the basis of all my friendships with women, let alone men. If you think that all women should either be dating you or not interacting with you at all, I think that you would be rather lonely.
I think he’s saying that if you like the person as a friend, then the only reason you wouldn’t want to date them are shallow reasons. I don’t agree though. At least, it’s not the case for me. Just because I enjoy a guy’s company doesn’t mean I want to be romantically involved with him.
You’re probably just a tease. Go lecture someone else.
You know that this IS in fact the hardest punch in the face you can give somebody?
For example, your pursue something more then friendship over time.
He/She tells you “omg.. if there were so kind and bla bla bla like you” then tells to you “omg! no! we are friends!”. How do you feel?
I could kill the person (in my case girl) in front of me.
People will never learn it . And they say, women are smarter and stuff…
This. Was going to post the same thing.
Could you have more of an invitation to get busy?
she has the amazing ability to change her hair color from black to brown instantaneously
Wait, the girl isn’t just another girl? They have different hair
why did her hair color change?
Woman mystery, unexplicable.
Lol, I’m surprised it took this long for somebody else to notice, I noticed right away.
Magnets?
definetly magnets.
f*ck hair dyes. buy magnets.
Awesome speed hair dying!
My permanent response to that statement, especially from a woman who has already decided not to date me: “If they were more like me, then you wouldn’t date them either. Now, don’t let the door knob ream you in the ass on your way out.”
HAHAHA…dude you must be fugly!
its because you say stuff like that that no woman would want you.
That, my son, means you’re screwed.
Do girls know what they’re saying, and to whom, when they say that?
Evidently not.
Achievement Unlocked: Friend Zone
-50 Points For Unlocking This Achievement.
But your virginity protection spell had it’s duration extended.
Fourteenth!
DUDE, you’re friend is a metamorphmagus!
This is such a win.
Heard that one
Suddenly…
Brown.
Man, chicks be crazy. This is unfortunately one of the many IRL examples of it.
How many times have I heard this?
Oh, the latest thing with me is “I’d date you if I was single”
What’s that supposed to mean? Am I just better than anyone’s boyfriend or was I just too late? D:
She is using you as a backup plan or flat-out manipulating you to make you think you’re not in the friend-zone. But you are.
^this.
She may also come on to you whilst drunk or something, and then when you form an emotional bond–BAM! She’s sticking with her bf. You were just the drunken cheating.
Not that it’s happened to me, nooo. Barf.
Ive gotta go potty
What they’re doing is making you seem like you’re important so you’ll do/buy stuff for them. Pretty much you’d be a boyfriend getting zero play.
le friend zone: This is why Ron from Harry Potter is awesome, he escapes this hellish nightmare to hook up with Hermione.
escaping friend zone > destroying you know who
It means she would never date you, being in a relationship is just the convenient excuse.
A NEW MEME APPEARS!
This was on reddit a week ago
http://www.reddit.com/r/fffffffuuuuuuuuuuuu/comments/hd7ff/i_hate_it_when_girls_say_this/
3 days ago, this was uploaded to reddit.
Thank you for sharing such important information, I do not know what everyone would do if they didn’t know it was posted on reddit first.
the secret is doing her friends real good. Then wait 5 years and she is yours. Aswell as all her new friends.
Man, I hate the friend zone… =(
Response: I wish more girls were like you, I’d totally date them.
dude… that’s like the biggest hint a girl could possibly drop. she’s practically begging you. =/
I beg to differ. It could mean anything since women (at least those that I know) tend to mindf*** you for pure pleasure.
Fwah, I lol’d ^.^
Saw it on Reddit already.
All the whining amuses me xD xD xD
Sad but true. So sad but true. If they just would say loud n clear “your charakter is nice, but your not my type” then everything would be fine. No, they do this stupid “hide n seek” game instead of telling the truth. So stupid.
Why does she have black hair in one panel, hen brown hair in the next? Am I the only one that noticed?! D:
Dude. Read older comments before you wonder if you’re the only one who noticed.
Paranoid Parrot:
Girl’s facial features and hair change in the middle of a comic
Mystique is going to kill me
My response would have been “Well I am like me!”
@miss riddle – meh u rong bih taim dear , exactlyy that response with the addition of “I iz not attracted and then seing said woman with a quite remarkable copy of you is kinda ………….
And that’s teh time i discovered red light districts and their use , ever since i hadn’t drowned sorrow in alc-ol or raged at random people cos some ***** acted like a ***** towards me .
Dude looks like Revolver Ocelot.
Oh I do believe she thinks you’re gay.
Take it as a compliment
this ಠ_ಠ just happend to me XD forever alone… >.>